How to: Choose Your Rings – the Essential Questions

As same-sex marriage is embraced by countries and states around the world, couples are asking many time honoured questions about engagement and wedding rings. They’re also seeking advice on what is appropriate for gay and lesbian marriages. Same-sex wedding and engagement ring specialists, Woolton & Hewitt offer their gay wedding ring advice and tips to bear in mind as you select the rings that will forever be symbols of your love.

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Do gay and lesbian couples exchange engagement rings?

The first thing to say is that there are no established rules. A core theme to same sex relationships is that of equality. If you decide on a surprise proposal it’s fine to do it without a ring. This allows you to choose your engagement rings together. Of course, the traditional option of one partner buying an engagement ring for the other is still available. Some couples, however, may prefer not to give each other engagement rings but to put all their cash into extra special wedding rings.

TIP: When buying engagement rings check that your preferred wedding ring designs will fit neatly alongside. If you think about buying shaped wedding rings make sure you’re happy with their appearance when worn alone.

We exchanged commitment rings years ago, can we use them when we get married?

Yes, how romantic to exchange them again. Or simply wear them as usual and take the opportunity to choose new diamond rings and give those to each other at your wedding. It’s a great way to get those engagement rings you’ve always wanted!

Should we buy gold rings?

Gold is, of course, the most traditional material for a ring. Gold is graded in carats where 24 carats is pure gold. When mixed with other metals gold becomes much harder wearing so rings are usually made in 9ct or 18ct gold. Gold rings made of 9ct contains 37.5% gold whilst 18ct contains twice as much. Your rings will be hallmarked by an official assay office with tiny stamps inside the band that confirm the purity, for example 750 indicates 18ct gold.

What about other precious metals?

Platinum is the most expensive of all the precious metals. It’s naturally white and has been used extensively in fine diamond jewellery. In the UK you will find rings marked 850, 900 and 950. These are the official grades in parts per thousand. It’s expensive but it’s gorgeous.

A modern alternative is palladium. This is another precious metal that is hallmarked in grades 500 and 950. Again, that’s parts per thousand. It too is naturally white but with the advantage that it’s less costly. You can expect a palladium 950 ring to be priced somewhere between 9ct and 18ct gold.

TIP: If you’re offered a ring in palladium 500 remember only half is actually precious metal so you should expect the price to be significantly lower than palladium 950 which is 95% pure.

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Which colour is best?

That’s really a matter of personal preference. Gold for jewellery comes in three main colours. Yellow, white, and rose or pink gold. Yellow is the classic colour, white gold (and platinum and palladium) have been very popular in recent years. Within the gay community pink gold has a strong following. Other options include two or three colour combinations and even multiple shades of gold and platinum that resemble a rainbow. For wedding rings, grey gold has been introduced and is growing in popularity. Usually it is combined with palladium or platinum to create a bi-colour “black and white” effect. It’s plated with ruthenium to achieve a dark finish.

TIP: Yellow gold gives a traditional look, white gold for modernity, two-tones are chic, fly the flag with pink and rainbow gold, and grey gold for the truly unconventional. Just a personal view!

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Should we get diamond rings?

Gay and lesbian couples have the freedom to make their own traditions when it comes to marriage. An engagement ring can be whatever you want it to be. It doesn’t have to be a solitaire diamond on a narrow band or a huge sapphire and diamond cluster. The options are boundless. Similarly, your wedding rings don’t have to follow the established pattern and be plain gold bands. Like diamonds your wedding rings are forever. Many same sex couples are seizing the opportunity to sparkle and wearing fabulous diamond set designs.

What should we look for in a diamond?

Understanding diamonds is a very technical business. A quick outline follows but the best advice is to buy the best quality diamonds your budget allows from a jeweller you trust.

The 4 C’s (Carat, Colour, Clarity, Cut) give you a good way to delve into diamonds.

  • Carat is the weight of the diamond. As a guide, an engagement or wedding ring might have a 0.5 carat single stone or maybe half a dozen small diamonds with a total weight of 0.12 carat.
  • Colour is very important and, for diamonds, is graded from D to Z with D being colourless stones, the most prized and therefore the most expensive. At the other end of the scale Z represents a yellowish colour. A good quality ring will contain a “near colourless” stone which is graded G-H.
  • Clarity refers to marks within a diamond. These tiny “inclusions” are usually small pieces of carbon that haven’t crystallised. Most engagement and wedding rings will be set with diamonds from the middle of the clarity scale: “very slightly imperfect” ( VS1, VS2) and “slightly imperfect” (SI1, SI2). But we are talking about really tiny marks that you need a magnifying glass to see.
  • Cut refers to the shape of the stone. The most usual shapes are round “brilliant” cut, square “princess” cut, and rectangular “baguette” cut. There are many other possibilities too. The choice is yours.

The price of the diamond reflects these and other qualities of the individual stone. And good jeweller will give you the choice, if you wish, to select diamonds that perfectly align with your desires and budget.

TIP: Don’t be rushed into a decision by an apparently huge diamond discount, find rings that are beautifully made and that look beautiful to you and your partner.

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How do we get the right sizes?

Getting the right finger size is really important so your ring is comfortable and won’t fall off! Points to consider are the width of your new ring, wider ones will probably need to be a little larger. And when taking measurements think about how your finger size varies at different times of day and at different temperatures. The best way to establish your size is with a set of professional ring sizers. These can be tried on in jewellery shops or are available online to buy or borrow.

TIP: Individual professional ring sizers are best as you don’t have the weight of all the others pulling on your finger.

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Any final advice?

Just to have fun! Shopping for engagement and wedding rings should be a wonderful and pleasurable experience enjoyed by both of you. In the high street or browsing online set your sights high. With a little luck it will be love at first sight all over again – then you know you’ve found the perfect rings for you!

View Woolton & Hewitt’s current collection of gay wedding rings and gay engagement rings online or find out more about how they can help you find your perfect wedding ring.

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