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Neil and Rumen’s Country House Wedding

The Lowdown

Where: The Elvetham Hotel, Hampshire
Wedding Theme: Bold and Bright
Photographer: It Must Be Love Wedding Photography, Chris and Helen Ison

They met on Grindr in 2012, fell in love and married in 2015. Neil and Rumen share their love story…

7 Venue and the approach image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House WeddingWe met on Grindr in August 2012, had a really nice first date and started a long-distance relationship as Neil was living in Brighton at the time and Rumen in Farnborough in Hampshire. We both had an opportunity to move to New York City so decided to take the plunge and move in together in a new city and country. After 18 months living in NYC we came back to England at the beginning of 2015 to plan our wedding.

THE PROPOSAL

We were in Rome for a rugby Six Nations game. After a day at the Vatican, we went to the picturesque Borghese gardens where Rumen proposed to Neil by giving him a watch with ‘Marry me?’ engraved on the back. Unfortunately the man-made lake Rumen had in mind was emptied for the yearly maintenance but the moment was romantic nonetheless.

THE WEDDING

From the start we wanted a ‘classic’ wedding. Gay people can finally get married in the UK so we really wanted to celebrate our love and commitment to each other. We always thought of it as our wedding, not our ‘gay wedding’. We decided to go with classic white flowers with green foliage; we also didn’t want to have a theme or a colour as we didn’t want to start obsessing over a particular shade of peach for example.

Conducting much of the initial planning while living in New York we were required to do a lot of venue research online. On a short trip back to England we visited a couple of venues which didn’t really work for us. Rumen had to fly back to the UK once more after we stumbled upon another venue which we loved.

The Elvetham Hotel turned out to be everything we envisioned in our venue, somewhere quintessentially British, charming, with grandeur, and on a slightly less romantic note, within our budget! After showing a lot of pictures to Neil we decided to book the Elvetham about 13 months before the day.

After the move from New York City back to England, and several months of preparation and planning, the day was finally here. Being a gay couple we weren’t really pressed by tradition so being together the night before the big day wasn’t a question. On the morning of the wedding we got up and enjoyed getting ready together, with our closest friends and family. We drove to the venue together, ready to welcome our 70 guests as they arrived before the ceremony.

We each walked down the aisle accompanied by our mothers and a string quartet serenading us with Le Cygne by Saint Saens.

9 Walking up the aisle with mum image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding

8 Groom looks at his watch image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding

With two grooms we felt it was best that no one really waits for the other one at the altar, but we still both wanted to make a grand entrance. We also decided we would only have two witnesses and a few unisex ushers to help us on the day, but no ‘bridesmaids’ because… well, there was no bride.

10 Mark Rumen and reigstrar image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding11 Guests at ceremony taking photos image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding12 Neil and Rumen hug after vows image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House WeddingAfter the ceremony and canapé and champagne reception, we had a whirlwind photoshoot in the grounds with our brilliant photographer, and before we knew it it was time for the wedding breakfast.

12 Female Guest laughing with Neil and Rumen image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding13 Group photo of wedding party image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding14 Guests take photos at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding15 Grooms in comical glasses at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding16 Kissing at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding17 The Grooms in the garden at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding

We had a wonderful 3-course sit-down meal, followed by speeches from both grooms, Neil’s dad and Rumen’s best friend. Coffee and petits fours followed, then it was time to hit the dancefloor with our wedding DJ, and greet our evening guests.

18 Ceiling detail at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding19 Personalised sweet favours at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding

20 Grooms chat at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding21 Happy guests at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding22 Green and white flowers at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding23 Neil and Rumen cut the cake image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding24 Groom leaping into the air image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding25 people dancing at Neil and Rumens wedding image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House Wedding26 Neil and Rumens wedding venue at night image by It Must Be Love Weddings Photographer Hampshire via Real Gay Wedding on the Gay Wedding Guide - Neil and Rumen's Country House WeddingWe decided to go for a classic white wedding cake with a few flowers and foliage prepared by our florist, and cake-cutting occurred soon after the first dance – we chose ‘Forever’ by Chris Brown, which really got everyone up and dancing.

Photography Credits It Must Be Love Wedding Photography

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